7 May is the International Day of Rainbow Families. A family is called a rainbow family if at least one parent identifies as queer. Families with two mothers often fulfil their desire to have children by donating sperm. There is either the option of a private donation or via a sperm bank. Gay parents often take foster or adoptive children into their family. There are also families in which several people raise one or more children together. These people can have a romantic relationship together, but do not have to be lovers. The children live alternately with the different parents or all family members live together. This form of family is not currently legally recognised in Germany, so members of the multi-parent constellation must decide who will take over parental care.
Unfortunately, there are no exact figures for Germany on how many rainbow families there are. One reason for this is that little research is done on this topic and often only homosexual parents are counted. Although marriage for all has been in place since 2017, queer married parents are unfortunately not equal to heterosexual married couples. In almost all cases, at least one parent must first adopt the child, which costs a lot of time and money. Joint adoption is also only possible if the parents are married.
Trans parents still experience a lot of discrimination because of their gender identity. If a trans man gives birth to a child, the name on the birth certificate is still the name he had before his transition. Trans women who wish to have their biological parenthood recognised are currently still regarded as the father in the eyes of the law.
A Dutch study from 2020 shows that children from rainbow families often have better grades at school and the parents are significantly more motivated than heterosexual couples. We are therefore calling for a change in parentage law so that queer parents have the same rights as heterosexuals and are no longer discriminated against by the state.